Good Sex
This is the second part of this 3 part article on 21 Foreplay Ideas And Tips You'll Be Dying To Try. Enjoy it
Sometimes the buildup is the best part.
Done right, the buildup to sex can be just as good as the main event—especially with these foreplay ideas.
Whether you're in a long-term relationship or having first-time hookup, foreplay tends to get overlooked. Part of the reason? It's easy for foreplay tips to feel a little contrived: Start by making out, move on to some over-the-bra action, make your way below the belt. But foreplay doesn't have to be quite so paint-by-the-numbers. We asked sex therapists and experts to weigh in with their favorite foreplay ideas. You're going to want to try them all the next time you get frisky.
8. Do the unexpected.
If all your intimate encounters are starting to look eerily similar, one of the best foreplay tips you can use is to switch things up. For example, if you always get down at night, trying initiating a sex session first thing in the morning. Normally leave the lights off? Try lighting candles instead. Or make a new sex playlist. Just like switching up where you have sex and engage in foreplay, you can switch up how you do it too.
9. Tell each other how you feel.
Okay, okay, before you cringe, remember there is a reason words of affirmation are a love language. Telling your partner what you like about them is a huge turn-on. Who doesn't like compliments?
10. Act out a fantasy.
Everyone has a sexual fantasy—acting one out is one of the most surefire ways to make all of your partner's foreplay dreams come true. Have them write down 10 fantasies they have—think: Eve and Villanelle on Killing Eve or Jamie and Claire from Outlander—on little slips of paper. Then choose one randomly and act it out. Admittedly, this can feel a little cheesy at first. To help you get past any awkwardness, the experts recommend just trying to keep it up for 30 seconds. Even in that short amount of time, you might find yourselves getting swept up in your roles.
11. Don’t kiss.
Sometimes almost kissing can be as tantalizing as kissing. Hear us out. Get face-to-face with your partner, either lying down side by side or with one of you on top of the other. Get close enough so that your mouths are just barely touching and your lips are parted—though not actually kissing. Instead, breathe in and out at opposite times, so you're "trading" breaths—you're breathing out when they're breathing in, and you're breathing in when they're breathing out. (Just make sure you both brush your teeth first.) It's simple but deeply intimate—you'll be surprised at how steamy things get. Do this for about a minute, or as long as you can without ripping each other's clothes off.
12. Get a massage.
Sometimes the best form of foreplay is as simple as relaxing. When your mind is on a thousand different things—the never-ending to-do list, that cryptic comment from your boss this week, the decorations for your best friend's bridal shower this weekend—it can be a challenge to really be present and get in the mood with your partner (hence why chilling out is often included on lists of foreplay ideas for women). Giving each other massages is a recipe for relaxation. Make it sexy: Light candles, get naked, pick out a scented massage oil.
13. Watch a sexy movie together.
If you and your partner are both into porn or are at least intrigued by it, try checking it out together. Winter recommends talking afterward about what you each like and dislike and what you might want to try (or not). Sometimes it opens you up to ideas you might not have thought of before. Start by looking for feminist porn sites.
14. Find a sexy story.
If the visual medium isn't your thing, that's totally fine. Watching people have sex onscreen doesn't do it for everyone. But don't write all forms of porn off just yet. Listening to a sexy audio story or reading a piece of erotica that turns you both on can be a great way to get in the mood. Check out Dipsea for the sexy alternative to your favorite podcast.
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